Navigating New Year’s Resolutions: Finding Balance and Self-Compassion

I wouldn’t call myself defiant; in fact, I thrive on structure and rules. At the grocery store, I meticulously scan every item at the self-checkout. I floss daily. I respect boundaries and traffic laws, though I occasionally speed within reason. I like order and knowing what I am supposed to do, but tell me I can’t do something, and I transform in a defiant 5-year-old. This is why I don’t diet; instead, I choose to eat nourishing food and limit unhealthy foods and excessive snacking. I stick to regular meals filled with veggies and protein because if someone tells me I can’t have sugar for a month, you might find me eating straight out of the sugar bowl at 1:00 am.

I’ve spent a lot of time analyzing this part of my personality. What I’ve learned is that setting restrictive limits leads me to rebellion. Instead, I structure my life in a way that helps me feel my best, and I respect this structure because I know how terrible I feel after indulging in a spoonful of straight sugar at 1:00 am (yes, I’ve actually done this).

So, when the New Year rolls around and the pressure of New Year, New You floods social media, I avoid restrictive resolutions because I know they won’t work for me. Instead, I focus on what I can control. I set achievable goals, offer myself healthy choices, and create a plan that supports daily habits that make my mind and body feel good. This approach gives me the autonomy I need to succeed.

The truth is I feel better when I feel better when I exercise and when I take time to meditate. I feel better when I have eaten 3-4 meals in a day that are packed with veggies and protein. I feel better when I allow myself a sweet treat that consists of a spoonful of natural peanut butter with some dark chocolate. I feel better when I get adequate sleep and when I am present, paying attention to my mind and body. I listen when I need rest or a break from socializing, or when I want to have a glass of wine. I also listen when I crave connection and seek out my daughters for a shared meal or meet a friend for tea. I journal to process my emotions and reflect on gratitude and successes. Rather than thinking, "I have to write in my journal today," I frame it as, "I get to reflect and write about my experiences." Sometimes, I write for just a few minutes; other times, I fill several pages.

I don’t believe in a quick fix or magic pill that can offer a healthy and sustainable solution. I believe in balance, goal setting, and consistency. Get to know your mind and body—they’re incredibly wise! Instead of setting restrictive resolutions, set realistic goals and create a plan to achieve them.

Start 2025 with balance and self-compassion! If you need support along the way, I am here to help! Reach out to book a private session or join me for Restorative Renewal, a 3-hour women’s workshop happening on Sunday, February 2nd. Together, we will engage in yoga, meditation, and goal-setting practices to help you reach your highest self.

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